The Midlife Malaise is more Insiduous than the Midlife Crisis
The midlife crisis is laden with drama and trauma and conjures up images of fast cars, ill-advised romantic flings or some sort of irrational breakdown wearing quite unsuitable (purple) clothing.
But for many of us it doesn’t happen quite like that.
It’s the Midlife Malaise that hits. And it’s a lot more subtle. It’s insiduous because it creeps up on us, so we don’t even know what’s happening. And many of us have never heard of it. When we do notice the feelings of dissatisfaction, aimlessness, a mild but lingering suspicion that time is running out and we never fulfilled our dreams, we usually just try to snap ourselves out of it.
But midlife doesn’t have to be characterized by the crisis OR the malaise. Midlife can be (and I think should be) the best time of your life to date – when you have the self-knowledge, the confidence and perhaps the time and money freedom to really start enjoying yourself!
Unfortunately, so many of us have given little or no thought to the possibilities. We’re so totally consumed by life’s pressures and responsibilities in the form of family, career and sheer survival, that midlife catches us completely unawares.
Suddenly there we are at 40, 50 (or any time after that – 60, 70, let’s get creative here) and we have no idea where all the years went or quite what we’re supposed to do now.
We feel a little lost.
We keep up appearances and fill our busy days with good deeds, but we’re not really fooling ourselves. Something just feels a little out-of-whack. There’s the niggling feeling that we’re just filling in time and that one day that time will run out and we will still have this slightly confused and aimless feeling then too. Only then we’ll know it’s all too late.
Not Good Enough.
You know you deserve More!
Don’t be fooled just because you’ve not had the crisis and run off to Peru.
Don’t go all stiff upper lip and soldier on (okay maybe that’s a bit too British, but you get it – and as women we are SO good at keeping the show on the road).
The thing is, when you have the crisis, people notice and you generally get help one way or another.
The slow and gradual decline is more insidious. Even you don’t notice and when you do you dismiss it. Life’s pretty good, you get on okay with your spouse, the mortgage is getting paid, the kids are growing up surprisingly well. You’ve nothing to complain about.
But do you have something to rejoice about? Do you get out of bed every morning excited about the day ahead, because this is YOUR day, another glorious gift to add to the incredible life you’re living because you’re past halfway and you’ve actually got it together now?
Don’t let the midlife niggle fool you.
Don’t wait for the midlife crisis to force your hand.
Midlife is a gift. It’s when you really get to start living.
If you want to explore more about making the MOST of your midlife, I can help. Start here.