When midlife hits, a Glorious Awakening is not always the thing uppermost in your mind – the Crisis is.
It’s hard to embrace the opportunities when you’re bogged down in the misery.
I GET IT. When the crisis hits, it hits hard.
You’ve been cruising along in your adult life, raising your family, climbing the career ladder and BOOM! – suddenly it’s just not okay any more.
Let me tell you, this has been building for a while.
Let nobody else tell you the crisis isn’t real – or worse – that you’ll get over it.
Bad news, YOU WON’T.
You can bury it again, but that IS a waste of your life.
Because you were made for so much more.
You were made for Truth, Beauty and Love. (I grant you, it’s corny, but it may just be true).
I know this because I’ve been through it AND come out the other side a New Woman (still corny, still true).
You see, for years I buried the knowledge that I wasn’t okay in my marriage. (Notice I say ‘okay’, not ‘happy’. I sure as hell knew I wasn’t happy).
The day I turned 40 I couldn’t bury that truth any longer. I looked in the mirror, feeling so trapped, feeling so much like I had no future, feeling so desperate and hopeless, that I wished I was turning 80. My vision of the life ahead of me was so bleak I wanted my life over.
That, I realised in shock, was the thing that wasn’t okay.
Can I just say, please don’t let things get that desperate before you take action. It’s a really dangerous place to be.
Anyway, I closed the door on my marriage (NOT an easy decision – I was married to a church pastor – that did NOT go down well). I lost a lot – my whole community for one thing, my role and purpose in life for another. Even my world view got rocked. I had to reinvent myself – totally. It was scary, stepping into that unknown, BUT NOT AS SCARY AS STAYING WHERE I WAS.
The result? My eyes were opened to the Midlife Awakening and I was blown away by the world that opened up before me. So full of opportunity, so beautiful and so right-fit for me. I had set myself free and I’ve never looked back.
That’s why I became a Midlife Mentor for women.
A little more about me:
I gained 20 years experience working with women in a church setting, teaching, encouraging and guiding them along their spiritual journey.
I have a Bachelor of Arts from the University of Sydney, and have since received further education in theology, spirituality and life coaching.
I live in the UK with my (new) husband and I have two grown-up daughters.
I grew up in Australia, so have lived on both sides of this amazing planet.
Talking of an amazing planet – I have beautiful English woodland around the corner from my house so I love to get out amongst the trees and walk.
I have too many books on my bookshelf (I know, I know, I try to stop buying but I just love learning new things and experiencing new worlds….)
I also love scavenging antique centres and charity shops – you never know what treasures you might find!
Last but by no means least, I’m a contributing author of the 2018 book, Love Revolution, stories that radically change the way we love, by Mia Saenz and 25 Love Revolutionaries (yes, I’m officially a Love Revolutionary). Check it out for more of my story: Amazon UK or Amazon US